Happy married life (Part-1)....absolutely workable solution technically....!

Scientific secrets of Unhappy to happy married life.

 

(Please Note: This is a result of 25 years of scientific research on marriage and related system.)

Large number of counselors have written lot of things about happy married life....
They work as entertaining solutions rather than workable...!

In this blog we will see how we ca make it happen 'on ground...!'.


What is Marriage?

 

"It is an interesting thing to understand that marriage is a socio-psychological religious system customized for species of human being in order to ensure opportunity of a female to each male."

Hadn't been the case alpha males would have have controlled almost all females without giving opportunity to other males. (As we see male groups of wondering lions in the jungles.)

Even some dominant males 'do' have more than one female in their life. This is on of the signature of this character.

Also females have 'natural tendency' to accept alpha male as their master and willingness to 'allow' him.

This fact has reference in the further discussions in future blogs. 


Psychologically marriage is co-existence of two entirely different physiological and psychological  entities in a confined psychological space for sustained period.

Husband wife compatibility

There is absolutely no compatibility between male and female as far as coexistence for longer period is concerned, excepting some psychological dependence and sexual need. These needs fall short in front of distresses developed due to monotony of co-existence and stresses of interactions in daily life.

These distresses gives birth to number of outcomes such as bored relationship, extramarital affairs, hunting pleasure outside marriage boundary and finding adventurous ways of entertainments.

 Ones we understand this fact and accept as 'technicality' of the relation; it becomes easier to proceed further easily.

Ok...!

Let's Go ahead....

Way to solution

  Now we look at the daily life first.
Remember major culprit here is 'our expression' in any situation may it be casual, happy, discussion, disputes, love, advice or of any kind.

Now every individual reacts* as per the persona which is formed by large number of traits. (We will discuss about it in details in subsequent posts.)

*-Reactions are of three types -1.Verbal   2. Facial expression   3. Acts

Manipulated behavior to positive direction 

There is always a unique way of expression in any situation which is supposed to be delivered considering  'positive result requirement' of the situation.

Now, we react as per our emotional status and previous memories along with that there is emotional influence of the situation. There are the serious parameters which greatly influence result of the intraction.  

Now training ourselves to monitor our behavioral outputs and testing them for that alignment with the required objectives and training us to discharge our behavior as per the requirement of situation is the biggest secret.

Now remember,  this secret can not be adopted in one day.


Why is it so?

Be Patient

It is because it is a skill. 
skill of swimming cannot be achieved within one day by reading a book, but it requires sustained efforts in that direction. 
Similarly we can slowly develop these skills in ourselves.

What is the motivation for taking efforts for this?
Yes...! 
There is a nice gift of God awaits for you,
 if you progress in right direction, 
that is unending improvisation in emotional relationship between you and spouse.

There are number of other small factors which also play role in relationship.
Our 'emotional temperament' that changes with age is also one of the reason.


This being the first blog about this issue I tried to cover in brief.
Your response will decide what is next ... and how to go ahead....
Bye for now...

God Bless...!

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